Flowers Aren’t Just for Girls

Who said flowers are only for women? As a romantic, I have occasionally given flowers to men. In fact I just recently gave a red rose to one on Valentine’s Day. I’d like to think that men favor flowers just as much as we women do even if they’re not as apt to admitting it sometimes. Who can blame them for wanting flowers? I don’t know about you, but when I get flowers, it always puts a smile on my face. Who wouldn’t love a bouquet of bright yellow roses on a bad day or a basket of daisies when you’re feeling down? As women, we’re always expecting to be given flowers by our men but never expect to repay the favor in return. What happened to the old saying “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”?

And what about those single father’s out there? Just because Mother’s Day is around the corner, doesn’t mean these amazing single fathers don’t deserve flowers as well. As far as I’m concerned, a single parent asks as both a mother and a father. Shouldn’t they be rewarded as such? So daughters, if you have a single father out there, do something nice for him on Mothers Day. Send him some sunny flowers. I say use 1800Flowers.com. They’ll understand the uniqueness of your relationship.

And ladies, why not give that special man in your life flowers every now and then? I bet he’ll appreciate it.

Beauty Enhancement

I know, I know, its been over a month, but after my last post you had to have known it would be awhile before you heard from me again. Recovering from a breakup takes time and if you don't understand what I'm talking about, then you're probably lying to yourself. I'm sorry to be so harsh. We've all been there, whether on the receiving end or not, and we know there's always an adjustment period. So cut me some slack. I'm here now aren't I and I have something to tell you.

I've decided to take control of the situation. Instead of being depressed and drinking myself silly because another guy walked away (I already did that the first two weeks), I am taking the negative and turning it into a positive. I have decided to make-over my appearance (or as my stylist put hit, a "beauty enhancement"). I got a fabulous new haircut, cleaned out my closet of all old items and replacing them with new fashionable ones, and am going to strive to be and remain an "enhanced" me. I am pretty after all, I should strive to always look that way and that's what my plan entails. So wish me luck. My debut is May 1st and it's going to be a whole new "enhanced" me.

P.S. I have a new work blog which I use to make a little extra cash and they've asked me to write a second post elsewhere on a topic I've already done. I'm going to post it here. So, don't worry if the next post seems like an ad cause technically it is.

So there you have it.

You know that relationship I've been talking about, the one where I was in awe it actually made it to one year. Yeah, well, say goodbye to that.

I don't really have anything to say about it. I don't want to pour my heart out and have tears come down my face. First, I'm at work and hate crying in public. Second, I already did that yesterday and I'm sure I will do it again tonight and tomorrow night and the night after, no matter how much I try to fight it.

I hate dating. I just want it all to be over. I want to find the one I'm supposed to be with and be done with it. I want to live the rest of my life happy with this one person. Is that too much to ask?

I don't want to give up, because doing so means not find him, but I just feel defeated. I feel like there's nothing left and I don't like it.

Because I Promised

I promised I would write you more often so that is exactly what I'm doing even though I have nothing major to tell you. Well, I do have one thing but depending on who you are you may think it big or not. My New Years resolution was to send out as many query letters as I can for the book I have written. I figured if my dream was ever going to come true, I needed to get my work out there, get it read by some important people. The more it's out there, the bigger the chance of publication, right?

So today, I'm doing it. At 4:30 when I walk out the work door, I am placing 4 (count them 4) query letters into the mailbox next door. On top of that, I have at least 4 more I want to send out. Publishers are specific when it comes to what they look for. Some of them have to be done at a later time. But at least I'm doing it. I'm getting it out there no matter how scary it is or how nervous I am. And believe me, I'm nervous.

I'm back!

Yes I'm still here and I'm sorry about the long absence. We all know how it goes: life, love, work and sometimes we can't seem to juggle all that and more, but I never forgot you. You have always been on my mind every time I connect to the Internet and every time I say to myself, "Self, you need to stop by and say hi." So here I am, saying hi. Better late than never, right?

So, should I give you the low down on what's been happening with me? There's so much to say, so much you need to know can I do it all in one shot. I guess I owe you enough to give it a try. Here goes:

Work= Change
Not in a job. I'm still doing the same job, doing the same work, and doing it at the same company. The change is in the environment. I'm in a new office location with a new cube. I have a new manager I'm still trying to build a solid working relationship with and a changing team. For a while there I was the only one. One girl left for a new job. The other two went on leave. It's slowly starting to come back. One girl has returned and it's nice to have her back. The other one is due to come back in March and the final spot is being interviewed. So there will be a new member soon enough. Change isn't too bad.

Guy= Still Around
Its been almost a year. Well, Tuesday will be a year to be exact, but it's been an interesting year. Some ups and downs as all relationships have, but he's here. Its been a long time since I made it this far with a guy and the possibility of it going further is exciting. Will he still be here a year from now. I guess only time will tell.

Family= Roller coaster
Mom and Lee got married. They finally did, they tied the knot. Twice actually. Once in San Diego and once in New Jersey. You know in case the first one stick. They're happy which is all that I can ask for. Now we're officially one big happy family. Mom with two kids, Lee with three. There are seven of us now. It feels nice.

That would be the up of the roller coaster and now for the down. I lost both my grandparents in December. The beginning of the month right before Christmas. It was a sad holiday. These were my mother's parents, this was the grandmother who inspired me everyday even when we were apart. She was special and not only to me but to all of us. We all loved her so much and we all watched her die. It's a memory I will never forget, a memory that will always bring me sadness. Her passing along with my grandfather, her husband, made for a rough day, a rough month, and a rough ending to the year. She will always be missed.

Writing Career= Still working on it
I am still writing, still sending things out, and still waiting for the day I get published. I still dream of walking into a bookstore and seeing my book on their shelf. It'll happen, I can feel it. I just have to keep at it and not give up.

Friends= Always There
Its the one thing I'm glad I never have to worry about. They will always be there, always love me, and always have my back. I'm quite lucky in that regard and it doesn't matter what group of gals I'm talking about: New Jersey or Boston. Both sets are special to me and both sets I can always count on. It's a comforting feeling.


So there you have it. A quick summary of all things my life these days. I hope it was enough for you and I promise to make a honest effort not to let it go so long between posts this year. It's a resolution of mine to write as much as I can this year, get my work out there and seen. That includes this blog. After all, it is a form of writing, is it not?